The Do's And Don't Of A Relationship

There is no such a fixed formula for having a successful relationship. Had it been such, then we would never have heard the words like, 'breakup', 'ex-boyfriend', 'ex-girlfriend' or 'divorce', don't we? I do not believe in things such that if there are certain things to do knowingly or unknowingly. The reason is pretty simple. All humans are different and each one has the right to be unique.
If I give you something called a 'formula', then it would only be through my eyes, it would only be through my experiences. Even you and me are different and so are different our styles of looking at children and handling them. So, it would be pretty difficult to say what exactly to do and what not to do. Still as you say there are some factors which are important for all the couples - dating couples of course, irrespective of where they live or from what background they come from.
For example, the trust unto each other. Trust is the most important binding factor that can keep a guy and a girl together for the whole of their lives. Secondly, as only trust would not help, so also there should be love for each other too. Understanding shown towards each other can do wonders. Caring is also a key factor. How much you care for your partner you have to show that through words and actions. If these small factors are taken into consideration, they I think, you have found the formula for a successful relationship. What I tried to tell you are all the positives. If you think they are worth it, then just spread the word.

Fall in a relationship - can you pick up yourself?

That is one thing that is really difficult to do. The first thing is picking up oneself and that is the thing that no one is good at or at least no one would want to do. I have gone through a fall in my relationship which I cared the most and the experience was a really harsh one. The was that no one was aware of my relationship at my house and all that I had to do, I was alone.
I had to manage all that myself. The reason was that my family was rather too a fundamentalist type and I was sure they would not approve of this relationship of mine. That is why I did not disclose the matter to anyone at my home. Who knew all this was only my mother and one of my sisters who did not oppose me.
 But when things went horribly wrong, I was alone at the receiving end. Nevertheless, I had these two ladies by my side. But did not have the guts to tell them what all had happened.
The reason was not that I was afraid or was backing off, but the real reason was that, I cared for my mother and dear sister and did not want to hurt them. They would have got a shock had I revaled them about my breakup. So, all I was to myself. Nevertheless, the time was a harsh one and it took ages to come to terms with the real life.

Do You Believe in Love at First Sight?

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There are many facets to love. Some term love as God while some term love as illusion. This means that God is an illusion. Now what is this link? I remember to have read that love is an illusion many a time and also remember to have read that love is god. But that is really confusing. But I am a firm beliver that there can be no love at first sight. I really doubt who coined this phrase - 'love at first site'. When you see a person of the opposite sex what you see is only the physic. You cannot see the mind of the person. And for love to happen, the minds need to get involved. There cannot be only a physical intimacy which you can term it as love. That would be lust. And if god is love then where is the place for lust?
Secondly, as long as you don't know the mind of a person how can you love him/her. It is important that you know the person, try to understand him or her and then only proceed. Moreover, to get into love and to remain there takes time. You need to win the confidence of the person and all these activities need time. This cannot happen overnight. And in most cases, this happens in just a moment.
My god! I, personally find this really surprising. Such love is bound to break sooner - though, I hope this comes false. But I have seen some couples who have fallen in love at first sight - in a moment's time and have broken up faster still. Then what you get is only frustration and depression. Is this the love that anyone seeks?

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